Anyone who's ever done hypnosis knows their fair share of failures. There's the subject who hits a plateau, and can't go deeper into trance. There's the trigger that never seems to work. There's the hallucination that is never seen. There's the instruction that seems to be ignored, or worse, works in an unexpected way My best example, I gave a woman a simple relax trigger every time she heard the word relax. All of my triggers before this one had been specific to me saying it, but in this case, I wanted it to work with anyone saying relax, so I took out the part locking the trigger to my voice. However, I didn't explicitly say that it could be anyone saying the word relax. So what happened? When I said relax, she relaxed. When someone else said relax, she got very anxious, because she didn't know for sure if she should relax or not.
But I digress. I've been having some success lately with a new method that I call "planned resistance". I use this method in two cases. I originally used it when the subject's conscious mind tends to resist any trigger or instruction. I also found that it works well when the trigger or instruction is more difficult, causing the subject to expect to fail.
Triggers and instructions work basically the same way, so I'll use the example of a trigger. The idea is to build some failure, in decreasing amounts, into the first few times the trigger is used. When I create a trigger, I also script out exactly how the subject will react the first few times that the trigger is used. Initially, the trigger is partially effective, and I instruct the subject that they will think their own resistance prevented the trigger from completely succeeding. The next two times, the trigger works progressively more, giving the impression that the trigger is becoming stronger than their resistance. On the fourth time, it works completely.
This creates some good trance and mental patterns. It emphasizes that triggers grow stronger over time and with each use. It builds failure into the model, allowing them to accept a failure and continue to strengthen and obey the trigger the next time. Even if the trigger doesn't work completely the fourth time, as long as it gets stronger, the pattern will eventually lead to it working. It creates a pathway for other triggers and instructions that they will eventually overcome resistance. Finally, like a woman who decides she wants to pick up a guy at a bar and has a few drinks first to either get up the courage or have an excuse, it allows the subject to both resist and later give up her resistance.
Showing posts with label hypnosis. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hypnosis. Show all posts
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Sunday, March 9, 2008
A new update!!
I apologize, I know I've disappointed many of you with the long stretch of inactivity. Unfortunately, there were too many things going on in my life to focus completely on this, or invest time in new sessions. The good news is, I now see the light at the end of the tunnel... hallelujah (or however you spell that!)
I'm currently working on two new concepts for sessions. I've seen limited materials on each idea, but in talking directly with others, I've found similar ideas that have worked in the past. My first new test is using on-demand amnesia. There are two triggers as part of this. When I say the first trigger, it acts as a marker for that instance in time. When I say the second, the subject forgets everything that happened between the two triggers. Others I spoke with already had success with similar amnesia ideas. When you think about the way the brain handles amnesia in trance (everything is remembered until the trance ends) and dreams (where you remember the dream immediately after waking up, but forget over the next hour), the brain has the amazing ability to erase. This doesn't even include factors such as drugs or alcohol.
The second idea is using the idea of brain plasticity and visualization for behavior modification. Brain plasticity is rewiring of the brain based on experience. For each experience you have, your mind forms new pathways. The more times you have the same experience, the more your brain strengthens that pathway. In many ways, it's like a mental rut, although it can be positive as well as negative, depending on the experience or action. Hypnosis is already great at creating links between new items and existing pathways. For instance, your brain has a pathway for creating an orgasm, and now we create a link that says anytime I rub the back of your neck, you will have an orgasm. While similar to this, I'm looking to take it a step further, and use visualization to close off a pathway. So let's take a woman who always orgasms when using a certain vibrator. I now block that pathway, so her brain now must figure out a new path to get to the end result (orgasm). In addition, I can also seed the new pathway, such as orgasm through g-spot stimulation, making the new pathway easier for her to create from scratch. By removing the known pathway (vibrator), and beginning the new pathway (g-spot), she then learns to get orgasms through g-spot stimulation. This is different than normal hypnosis, which ties the g-spot to existing pathway. Instead, she now has a new behavior for having an orgasm, and this behavior will quickly become permanent. It'll be easier to explain once I have a working example, so I'll leave it off here for now. I have created a poll to get some opinions on the subject in the meantime.
I'm currently working on two new concepts for sessions. I've seen limited materials on each idea, but in talking directly with others, I've found similar ideas that have worked in the past. My first new test is using on-demand amnesia. There are two triggers as part of this. When I say the first trigger, it acts as a marker for that instance in time. When I say the second, the subject forgets everything that happened between the two triggers. Others I spoke with already had success with similar amnesia ideas. When you think about the way the brain handles amnesia in trance (everything is remembered until the trance ends) and dreams (where you remember the dream immediately after waking up, but forget over the next hour), the brain has the amazing ability to erase. This doesn't even include factors such as drugs or alcohol.
The second idea is using the idea of brain plasticity and visualization for behavior modification. Brain plasticity is rewiring of the brain based on experience. For each experience you have, your mind forms new pathways. The more times you have the same experience, the more your brain strengthens that pathway. In many ways, it's like a mental rut, although it can be positive as well as negative, depending on the experience or action. Hypnosis is already great at creating links between new items and existing pathways. For instance, your brain has a pathway for creating an orgasm, and now we create a link that says anytime I rub the back of your neck, you will have an orgasm. While similar to this, I'm looking to take it a step further, and use visualization to close off a pathway. So let's take a woman who always orgasms when using a certain vibrator. I now block that pathway, so her brain now must figure out a new path to get to the end result (orgasm). In addition, I can also seed the new pathway, such as orgasm through g-spot stimulation, making the new pathway easier for her to create from scratch. By removing the known pathway (vibrator), and beginning the new pathway (g-spot), she then learns to get orgasms through g-spot stimulation. This is different than normal hypnosis, which ties the g-spot to existing pathway. Instead, she now has a new behavior for having an orgasm, and this behavior will quickly become permanent. It'll be easier to explain once I have a working example, so I'll leave it off here for now. I have created a poll to get some opinions on the subject in the meantime.
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Poll and Sexuality
I've posted a new poll today, and have added this posting for comments. As I mentioned in the previous post, Inhibitions and Morality, I've found that a lot of people view things as morals that are really inhibitions, including sexuality. I've also found that inhibitions respond well to hypnosis, where morals (like no murder) won't change. However, I want to see what you think! Answer the poll, and use this section to post your comments and thoughts! I am also posting one other thing for further consideration in the comments, because I'd prefer that people answer the poll first.
Sunday, July 15, 2007
The Keys to Success
(As you may have noticed, my posts are kind of spread out. I posted these first few posts all at once, but I composed them over time as the desire struck. I wanted to have all my background posts up before I got into some of my current activities.)
The lack of initial success was very disappointing to me. I tend to be demanding of myself, so instead of appreciating my new found ability to induce trance, I scoured all the resources I could find to better understand the process. My breakthrough came in confidently setting expectations with the subject over a few days before the trance, combined with the discovery of a four helpful deepening tricks.
In my initial trials, I was still learning what was possible or not. You read lots of things on the Internet, but it's hard to tell what is true, and what is wishful thinking (I'm still waiting to meet the person who changed their gender through hypnosis). I did find some very valuable information, based on works from Freud, as well as studies of the works of Mesmer through Erickson. I also found a very radical theory from an Ivy League psychologist that I'm still trying to completely implement, but helped me greatly.
In addition to these sites, I found good examples of the exact things I was trying to do in a couple of other blogs and sites. These are all listed on my links section.
Based on my new information, I took any opportunity over the next few days to explain to my subject how the trance worked. I strongly tied it to the idea of id and ego from Freud, since she already understood these. I also explained how she had to work to get deeper, but that just like a path in the woods, each time you walk it, it becomes easier and clearer. I also developed a new theory of submission, that the conscious and subconscious can submit separately. This became very helpful, as you'll see shortly. I did this based on the theory of "demand characteristics", that the subject will exhibit the traits that the hypnotist expects. I won't get into the psychological studies of this, but I found some references to work in the 40's and 50's.
The next time I brought her into a trance, this was the knowledge she used as the basis for her trance. By better framing what the trance would be, I believe her subconscious would create the trance as I wanted it to be, and would better be able to plant triggers and suggestions for when she was awake.
Once she was in trance, I used four new deepening tricks. First, and most simply, I became must more authoritative in my speech during the entire process. My initial scripts were more based on the idea of guiding a subject, this time I became more commanding, especially by using the phrases "obedient", "unable to resist", etc. Second, I gave her a visualized gauge that she would be asked to check periodically to report on how deep she was in trance. As she saw herself deeper, it made the authoritative commands stronger. Third, I gave her a mechanism for deepening her trance. Instead of using only passive visualizations, like a ride down an escalator, I gave her a large knob she could turn, and each turn would bring her deeper into trance. This active visualization definitely worked much better. Lastly, I "separated" her conscious and subconscious minds. I had her visualize her conscious mind in a room she normally enjoys, then had her subconscious step through a doorway and locked her conscious mind in the room. This visualization helped her focus completely on the trance.
Using the above techniques now on an ongoing basis, I've now worked successfully with a few subjects. In my next post, I'll get into some of the triggers, commands, and changes I've been able to make.
The lack of initial success was very disappointing to me. I tend to be demanding of myself, so instead of appreciating my new found ability to induce trance, I scoured all the resources I could find to better understand the process. My breakthrough came in confidently setting expectations with the subject over a few days before the trance, combined with the discovery of a four helpful deepening tricks.
In my initial trials, I was still learning what was possible or not. You read lots of things on the Internet, but it's hard to tell what is true, and what is wishful thinking (I'm still waiting to meet the person who changed their gender through hypnosis). I did find some very valuable information, based on works from Freud, as well as studies of the works of Mesmer through Erickson. I also found a very radical theory from an Ivy League psychologist that I'm still trying to completely implement, but helped me greatly.
In addition to these sites, I found good examples of the exact things I was trying to do in a couple of other blogs and sites. These are all listed on my links section.
Based on my new information, I took any opportunity over the next few days to explain to my subject how the trance worked. I strongly tied it to the idea of id and ego from Freud, since she already understood these. I also explained how she had to work to get deeper, but that just like a path in the woods, each time you walk it, it becomes easier and clearer. I also developed a new theory of submission, that the conscious and subconscious can submit separately. This became very helpful, as you'll see shortly. I did this based on the theory of "demand characteristics", that the subject will exhibit the traits that the hypnotist expects. I won't get into the psychological studies of this, but I found some references to work in the 40's and 50's.
The next time I brought her into a trance, this was the knowledge she used as the basis for her trance. By better framing what the trance would be, I believe her subconscious would create the trance as I wanted it to be, and would better be able to plant triggers and suggestions for when she was awake.
Once she was in trance, I used four new deepening tricks. First, and most simply, I became must more authoritative in my speech during the entire process. My initial scripts were more based on the idea of guiding a subject, this time I became more commanding, especially by using the phrases "obedient", "unable to resist", etc. Second, I gave her a visualized gauge that she would be asked to check periodically to report on how deep she was in trance. As she saw herself deeper, it made the authoritative commands stronger. Third, I gave her a mechanism for deepening her trance. Instead of using only passive visualizations, like a ride down an escalator, I gave her a large knob she could turn, and each turn would bring her deeper into trance. This active visualization definitely worked much better. Lastly, I "separated" her conscious and subconscious minds. I had her visualize her conscious mind in a room she normally enjoys, then had her subconscious step through a doorway and locked her conscious mind in the room. This visualization helped her focus completely on the trance.
Using the above techniques now on an ongoing basis, I've now worked successfully with a few subjects. In my next post, I'll get into some of the triggers, commands, and changes I've been able to make.
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Initial Trials
I started with hypnosis within the past year. Initially, I was skeptical of the application. I knew hypnosis was possible. I had family members participate in stage shows, and a close friend used hypnotherapy to quit smoking. However, my goal was to get true submission, not break a bad habit or turn someone into a chicken.
In my first attempt, I worked with a female sub I've known for years. She was skeptical, but willing to try. I was lucky in my choice; she's a very creative person, and I've learned since that creativity is very helpful for visualization.
My initial attempt was very disappointing to me. The induction took approximately fifteen minutes, and I needed to deeper her for about ten minutes further. I then tested the depth of her trance by sticking her hands together, then gluing her eyelids closed. Both worked for a second or two, but were quickly overcome.
When I woke her, I found that none of the triggers I had set worked. The most interesting memory from the trance was that her eyes kept moving, and she put a lot of effort into stopping them but couldn't. She was also very tired from the experience. She was very relaxed though, and this gave me the opening to bring her into trance again in the future.
In my first attempt, I worked with a female sub I've known for years. She was skeptical, but willing to try. I was lucky in my choice; she's a very creative person, and I've learned since that creativity is very helpful for visualization.
My initial attempt was very disappointing to me. The induction took approximately fifteen minutes, and I needed to deeper her for about ten minutes further. I then tested the depth of her trance by sticking her hands together, then gluing her eyelids closed. Both worked for a second or two, but were quickly overcome.
When I woke her, I found that none of the triggers I had set worked. The most interesting memory from the trance was that her eyes kept moving, and she put a lot of effort into stopping them but couldn't. She was also very tired from the experience. She was very relaxed though, and this gave me the opening to bring her into trance again in the future.
Sunday, May 20, 2007
Welcome!
Welcome to my corner of the world. I'm a man in my thirties. I've been slowly adding hypnosis to my toolkit in relationships with submissive women. It took me years of mostly frustration to get to this point. I've had a number of dom/sub relationships, both short or long term. Some were quite successful, while others not at all. However, I've also met some women who, while they wanted to be submissive and claimed to be submissive, couldn't succeed at being submissive. As soon as they reached a level of discomfort, whether from pain, embarrassment, or just lack of control, they would immediately reject and withdrawal from the current activity. This is not a case of limits pushed to far; these women would insist both before and after that they really wanted to do the activity. I came to think of it as a mental gag reflex. Since I'm looking for complete, willing submission, this caused a problem.
I've learned lately that this mental gag reflex is a response of the conscious mind. Whether through learned response, inhibition, shyness, or embarrassment, the conscious mind often can step in and block full submission. This is where hypnosis begins.
Through hypnosis, I've found that the subconscious mind can override the conscious mind's hangups and reach a much deeper level of submission. As an added bonus, some posthypnotic suggestions can create levels of domination that would not be possible otherwise. I'll get into both of these ideas more as I continue to post.
Before I go further, let me crush the dreams of a few of you. I only hypnotize willing subjects after fully discussing the upcoming session. Hypnosis will not make someone who's not interested in you your slave, and will not change anyone's morals or personality. OK, you can change personality for a short time, but that's really just role playing, right?
I'd also like to acknowledge Hypnomaster D from BDSM Hypnosis and Lex from Hypnosexy. I've thoroughly enjoyed reading both blogs, and they inspired me to transcribe some of my experiences. I will use a slightly different format, as I won't have any subs posting (at least not yet).
I've learned lately that this mental gag reflex is a response of the conscious mind. Whether through learned response, inhibition, shyness, or embarrassment, the conscious mind often can step in and block full submission. This is where hypnosis begins.
Through hypnosis, I've found that the subconscious mind can override the conscious mind's hangups and reach a much deeper level of submission. As an added bonus, some posthypnotic suggestions can create levels of domination that would not be possible otherwise. I'll get into both of these ideas more as I continue to post.
Before I go further, let me crush the dreams of a few of you. I only hypnotize willing subjects after fully discussing the upcoming session. Hypnosis will not make someone who's not interested in you your slave, and will not change anyone's morals or personality. OK, you can change personality for a short time, but that's really just role playing, right?
I'd also like to acknowledge Hypnomaster D from BDSM Hypnosis and Lex from Hypnosexy. I've thoroughly enjoyed reading both blogs, and they inspired me to transcribe some of my experiences. I will use a slightly different format, as I won't have any subs posting (at least not yet).
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